The Man of the House

[momof3]

Moms have a great deal of responsibility within the home. There is no question that a home will only run smoothly if mom is on top of her game in her organization skills and if she radiates the warmth and gentleness her children need. Yet as vital as mom is, dad is vital too. He is vitally important in the children’s daily lives and in how he relates to his wife as a spouse.

Children need a strong father figure. Dads like to play with their children and are so good at being the “fun one” when mom is left to relegate the yes and no’s most of the time. But there are some areas that get neglected by fathers in their quest to spend time with their children.

Dads need to truly be the “man of the house.” They should command and earn respect by doling out discipline when it’s needed and helping mom enforce the rules. They should insist that their children speak to mom in respectful tones and encourage character in their children by meaningful exchanges and sometimes-necessary lessons.

A home can be lots of things but in order for a family to be healthy and for children to learn how they should act as an adult, how they should treat a spouse and/or be treated by a spouse in return; dad needs to step up to the plate.

A mom can be the center of her child’s life at times; but she cannot be both a mother and a father. She needs to support her husband and let him truly be the head of the household. This doesn’t mean it’s okay to be a doormat or never hold disagreements with your spouse. It simply means to be a helpmate and encourage your husband to be a wise family leader. A mom’s job will be easier if she has a teammate to trust and rely on. So if she allows her man to really be “the man” the family as a whole will be healthier.

[Help]

You have some very valid points in this blog and your other about raising children.
I find it funny, however, that you would post something like "It all depends on your last name around here..... " and "The kids with the "name" will be working under mine someday..." something to the effect that yours will own companies and the ones with a "name" will not.
Are you meaning that the children of well known families in this county will not amount to anything? That is a bold statement, and if you check on how some adult children of families with a "name" in this area, you will find there are some real success stories.
There are also wonderful success stories of children who come from nothing, or from ordinary families as well.

For all your posting about how to raise children, I hope you are living what you preach. The best thing you can do is tell your children that it doesn't matter who your parents are, how much money you have etc... Success is measured by the happiness you get out of your life, and is not based on what anyone else thinks of you, or the work you do.
All I want for my children is happiness and contentment. I don't care if they are successful by the world's standards or if they are pulling in a fat paycheck, owning a company etc....
I wish you had posted who you are... that way we could all see how successful you really are as a parent. I hope you will teach your children compassion and understanding when they are running those major companies. Hopefully they won't hold grudges and be bitter, as your posts have led me to believe you are.

[Good Question]

Help- you pose a good question to momof3. She seems good hearted enough - yet sounds like she has been hurt by something or someone along the way. Hopefully momof3 you can keep the good thoughts you have and throw away the old baggage. You sound like you are trying to be a good parent.

and another couple questions for you, who makes the decision what names are the good names and which names are not? Wouldn't that be in your own mind whether or not you have the right last name?

[momof3]

It goes back to what I have seen and listened to.When it comes to school,after school,jobs,friends etc.My children will be in a program or something else along those lines.It never fells.The one's that are well known or have lived here forever gets the role,title.
Not saying my kids deserve it more then another child.I have seen many kids over the years that deserved a role in a play and know they have done well, but only to be knocked down by a bigger "NAME".
When i say "NAME" It's because I don't want to use last names on here.But they know who they are.These kids are smart come from a great family,but its the attitude they carry with them.